Busyness in Life

A word came to me this morning when I woke up. Busy... then I heard buzzing sound in my head... like a bee...  We are always busy, doing something, thinking about something. Some of us will make ourselves doing just about anything that we could put our hands of and our thoughts of.... Some use busy to avoid from facing up things in our lives. Some just couldn't stand, a still moment with self so they use it to keep them moving. Some use it because it is safe, it is comfort even though it is not what we want.

Though some are busy living life. Charting out what would be fulfilling in life,  finding passion. Living life with passion, making a difference to others, connecting with people that they care. Busy waking themselves up when automatic pattern and behaviour sets in. Busy connecting and learning to love unconditionally, working with themselves from within, learning, unlearning and relearning things in life.

The question is ...

Which one of these that we are so busy about?

Beware the barrenness of the busy life - Socrates

Perhaps what it takes is just to stop and have a look into what we are busy about. Maybe we have been using this busyness for a long time. Perhaps it's time to pursue the things that we always wanted to. Perhaps life is more than just getting ourselves busy... Look around and see what have we been missing out of in life... Those moments that we missed, we will never get it back again. Sometimes because of so many things that is happening in our life, we forget to see what and who is in front of us.

The busyness of one's life can only be stopped and managed by the person who's creating it.

Busy life

Have you ever feel

Have you ever feel...

The beating of your heart

The softness of the wind that caress your face and skin

The peace and the calm of nature

The touch of breeze in the middle of nowhere

When the waves and the oceans speaks to you

Have you ever feel....

The beating of your heart

The pain when heart is broken

The love of of a mother for her unborn child

The joy in the laughter of a child

The pureness and innocence of your core

Have you ever feel what has become...

When a child growing and becoming adult

When a girl becomes a woman

When a boy becomes a man

When one becomes two and become one again

Have you ever feel...

The grace of space and universe

The beauty and power of the stars

From peace to chaotic, volatile, into the state of bliss

From the space of everything to nothingness

From separation to atonement

Everything in the space has a relation

I Lost a Friend

I lost a friend today...
Not just a friend, not just any friend
She is a person that I admire, adore and loved 
A shoulder to cry on when I need some comfort
A great listener to listen to my ranting
A fantastic mirror as I could count on her feedback, wouldn't sell me out on anything and ensure that I always on track
A cheer leader that will cheer me up to continue doing what I started even though I felt like giving up halfway
A great companion doing all the crazy, fun, unreasonable and challenging things in both our life
A person who was well-traveled as to expand her perspective of life and be free
A creative entrepreneur who has touched so many lives through her work because her work is her passion
A loving wife, mother and daughter, her love is so infectious and so unconditional that she did not mind to go the extra miles 

Shub, the name that I fondly called her
I will be missing her calling my name too
Even though it is difficult for me to learn to live without you by my side
I will cherish every moment that we spent together in the last 10 years
I am so grateful that I get to know you
I know that you will be up there somewhere with Paul and Little Kaela
I lost a friend, a soul mate today...
But your love and memories will always be with me till the end...   I love you Shub...

* Shuba, her husband Paul Goes and their young daughter Kaela were among the 298 passengers onboard of flight MH71 that has been shot down at the Russia-Ukraine border.

Space of forgiveness

It is not an act
It is not a doing
It is the intention and part of our essential being
To fore go the need to hold on to

In that space of forgiveness
Love and hatred cannot co exist
Forgiveness is willingness
It is in the acceptance and letting go
A desire arise to give love again unconditionally
It does not bound by past and history
It is not a have to but merely a choice

An epic battle between the glory of pride and a space of humility
Fierce and intense in the heart of a man
When ego subsides and love surmounts and conquered the space
It will be filled with passion and grace
A spirit of calmness and the rest fizzles through thin air
A space which is vast but yet filled
Overflowing and full of abundance
A feeling of whole and yet healing
And that is a space of forgiving...

Judgement

While I was talking to a lady just now, I realised something and I want to share my thoughts with you.

I met this lady a fortnight ago in an event. During this event she was not responding to me appropriately. My automatic reaction was to judge her. "Rude, inconsiderate, self-absorbed..." and the list continues... I also know a little bit of her background and that strengthen my judgement and the belief about her.
So today I met her again... and I heard other people's opinion and experience about her when she just entered the space for less than a minute.

It is just so easy to fall into judgement mode as we do it everyday and it becomes an automatic for us without even need to do a lot of work in judging. So we become a judgement machine. Ah, even the statement sounds like a judging statement.

Now the story continues, before I sat down and start talking to her, I noticed I have a choice to make here. One is to continue my judgement that I set before hand and continue the conversation. Second is to start on a clean page. I chose the second. Not easy as I noticed the opinions and judgements wanted to interfere into my mind. There were a lot of effort that I put in just to remind myself and stay vigilant on being present and compassion.

The result, as I listen to her and getting to know more about her, I realised that how wrong I was about all my judgements and my assumptions on her. She was not rude, she is nice and pleasant. She is not self absorbed, she remembered our first encounter. She apologised for being rude to me. I was humbled by that experience and by being wrong about my judgement. I forgave myself and moved on with our conversation so that I would be able to enjoy and create a wonderful experience for both.

My lesson and thought for today

Being aware about our thoughts and actions, requires us to be present with our mind and our emotions. It is important to be vigilant with our intentions and create what we committed to create. Along the way, if we wonder off, stop before it is too far, forgive if that makes you feel good again, laugh about it if you can, make a new choice in that moment and create new experience again.

Change...

When we speak about change. We can see different reactions from different people. Many people welcome change and many are against change. Psychologist, people in training field, human capital specialist, talk a lot about change. In fact in some culture of organisation and society, the word change is a taboo. You have to be mindful to approach change in certain environment and culture.

How do you feel when you hear and experience change? Change at work, change in relationship with people, change of feelings. How do you cope with change? Do you welcome change or you resist change? Why do we resist change? What are we afraid of if people change? Can we see the value of change itself? Have we forgotten that we are the product of consistent change in our life...

Are we changing for the better or become worst than before? Do people change? Some believes that people do not change... is it true? If people do not change, then why they have desire to change? Is it because it is a nice to have? "It is nice to change once in a while" ... could this be a conversation that we have within us or people that we are close with?

It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird; it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely, being just an ordinary and decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.

C.S. Lewis

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