Two sides of a coin

There's a saying

There is always two sides of a coin

Everyone of us has a story. We create and tell our story everyday. One side of the story, we may tell people what they really want to hear, it will go through filtering, adding, subtracting so that it will become juicier and will serve our purpose. Maybe manipulating, getting attention, blaming or become a victim story etc.
The other side of the coin... Is where "What's the story morning glory is?" The real story, what actually happened, what did you do or did not do that created the result? What did you say or did not say that created the result? This side of the story is not easy to tell... As it requires us to take ownership and responsibility of what happened. We are part of the contributor to our story. Always... That means, this side of the story  that requires us to be responsible, leaves little room for finger pointing or blaming. We have to rise and becoming a bigger person to be able to see from this point.
So which side of the story that you tell? Which one would we prefer to listen? Which one would serve humanity? Which one would breed separation? Which one people love to hear? Which one you love to listen?

Which side of a coin that we use, to see our life everyday?

Staying sane in a drifted world

A thought came to me before I closed my eyes last night to sleep ... 

"How do I stay sane in the drift ..."

Most of the time, we just do more of the same but with different people and different place, different environment. Insanity, doing the same thing over and over again expecting different result ... So what can we do about it.
Maybe we are asleep while awake, deaf while hearing things and blind while seeing ... so we just form part of the drift. What does it take to stay awake? Maybe that's the key to be sane, to taste life as it is versus illusion that we create in our life.  Perhaps, part of the suffering that we experience is because of we also creating illusions and set the expectations that we know would not serve us ... Staying awake may requires us to be vigilant about our emotions, thoughts and actions. To always see possibilities and make new choices out of many that is presented in front of us.
I read this, this morning ... and it brought the sanity back in me ...
Thank you Maya Angelou and may you rest in peace as your contribution and legacy continues to serve human kind ...

Still I Rise - Maya Angelou

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.
Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.
Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.
Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?
Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.
You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

How are you feeling?

Today is another usual encounter that I have with people. I had glimpse of thoughts here and there. What caught my attention today was, when I asked this question "How do you feel now?" The usual answers would be :

• I don't know
• Feelings?! (Like a strange word)
• What do you mean?
• I don't have any feelings...
• Ok
• I feel .....
• Silent ....

My thought ... How could that happen? How could we have the hesitation to feel. Aren't we suppose to have feelings/ emotions, to feel... Have we lost it? Feeling is like a censor or a guide to us, becoming human. That is part of our emotional intelligence (EQ) (I think...). Some of us take sometimes to find words to describe feeling. I googled the list of word for feeling and I found that it's more than 150 words that could describe different feelings or experience that could express our emotions.

So how come we say that we have no feelings? Is it that we are afraid to feel? Have we numb ourselves? Or are we too busy to feel so we just let the feelings disappear ...  

When we come to the world, we are full of emotions and feelings even when we do not understand a word, we know how to express our emotions. Are we zombifying ourselves now in life? At what price?

How are you feeling?

If you have 100 days to live...

In my daily life, I asked this question to people that I met. If you have 100 days to live, what would you do? How is your life going to be different? Many were stunned. Some of them said that they never think about that. It took them sometime to think about it, the common answer would be travelling and spending time with their loved ones.
Last week I asked the same question to a guy and he had tears in his eyes. I asked why? He said that he has a brain tumor and his days are numbered. He said, he cannot see it beyond today as he is taking one day at a time. My heart stopped for a while, never occurred to me that I would be in the situation that I asked a person who has limited time to live.
My thought... have I ever thought about my days are exactly like him? The difference between me and him, he gets the news so much faster than me. I do not know when and how. And because of that, I may take my life for granted, thinking there will always be tomorrow... Have I spent time with the one that I love, do the things that I want so that I do not have the conversation of "What if ..., I should have done that ... and I would want to do this ..." What drives me doing things that I do everyday? Is my life right now become so mundane and automatic and I am going with the flow. Am I zombified in this world now? ...

If you have 100 days to live, what would you do...?

No Time

I listened to people and would ask questions like what would be in the way of you getting what you want. Majority would point to TIME. I have got no time. My time is devoted to work, family. I have got no time for myself. I have got no time to pursue my dreams. I have got no time to think about myself. No time, so I need to get this skill of managing time.
Just a thought ... Is it the time that needs to be managed? Or is it the person like you and me that needs to manage ourselves around time. Time would always be there, the same 24/7. 86,400 seconds for us to begin with. What do we do with it? Is it the skill of managing time or the attitude that we have towards time? Managing our time or managing our commitment?
My thoughts ...

If you don't respect time, time will not respect you

So is it about time that we stop for a while and have a look what's going on? We have our own answer for this.... :-) There's a saying that goes like this ...

Time wait for no man

Just A Thought

I was thinking about activating my blog ... again. Changing my blog name to Just A Thought. So hello world. I think a lot and some of my thoughts may make sense and some may not. Some of the thoughts will be coming from judgement and assessment on how I see the world. I would like to say that these thoughts have no right neither it's wrong.
My thoughts could be all over the place sometimes. So by writing my thoughts, I would be able to collate and learn something here. I also asked myself, who would be reading Just A Thought as it is just a thought that might come and go. But I guess it does not matter, the like minded person will be somewhere. Out of 7 billion people, what would be the chances of someone would stumble upon this site.
I do not want to give any advise here as there's a lot of great people are doing that outside there. 3 ways of this, 6 ways of that which are all fantastic. Maybe you are thinking the same way as I am or totally opposite. I don't know but I am open to know ( feel a bit nervous though) and open this space to and for sharing. Here we go ....